What the purpose of created my blog for??

I spoke to Ashley last week that I so long time did not write the new things on my blog, no time, busy, no mood...

Ashley said " aiyo... you can write somethings about your new house mah".

Then I also realized that my blog like the place that I express all the "bad", "sad" and "unhappy" things... I like long time didn't share the "good", "happy" and "fun" things....

Oh... so sad to realised that... my god... it shown that my WORLD only have "FAMILY PROBLEMS"!!!

Since already move to new house, everything should have new begin ... yeah!!

"Shanny Lim, your WORLD is BIG leh, dont' just share the "sesame and green bean" matters lah!!!!!"

"but.. sometimes where got so many "BIG" things to write leh.. haha...."

One Family = One House???

"One house is not meant that is for one family and One family can own more than one house".

It meant that:
You own a house, but inside there can involved more than one family;

and One family (members) can own few houses.

Don't think that you have your own house, no one can involve your 'Family Matters".... I can said NO NO and NO...

I though that what even happen to my house, that is my own business, my problems.. but.. NOT AT ALL...

Why?? haha... haha... except for laugh, I don't know what I can "express" out...

I really hope my tears can out in front of "them" and can voice out what even things that I am not satisfied and not happy things in front of "them", score them directly, let "them" know if "they" are on my situation, how they will feel???? I really want to ask "them": "How do you feel"??

But.. I really "too strong" and "patient", I will not allow my tears out in front of them...

"He" not really support me.. I really sad some times, but I can't show it out...

"He" will think that I am too much, find troubles, like to argue....

Why I can't angry?? why I can't show I am not satisfied?? Why I have to accept?? I really really don't understand some times...

Everythings "they" suggest, voice up and advice are "CORRECT" and "ACCEPTABLE";

Everythings that "I" suggest, voice up and advice are "NOT CORRECT" and "UNACCEPTABLE".

That is "Our" house, why can't we make the decisions by our own???

Of course that they can PROVIDE the advices and money, but not meant that we got to accept it.

Why does not give a chance for us to try to "solve" it by our own, why must help???

"They" do things behind, "they" are right, because "they" are HELPING not DISTURBING, so we must "APPRECIATE" it....

I even though bought the book regarding the "family" to council my self, make my self to "understand" the "them".

I really really tired on this matter... I have a lot of "planning" inside my mind, hope it will not use it one day!! I really don't want this day come...I pray...

相逢何必曾相识

每次当我听见{相逢何必曾相识} 这首歌，我都会觉得回味。。

一首从香港漫画内认识的同名诗就会浮现在脑海。。。

相逢和必曾相识；
相识也许没缘份；
缘份缘尽人远去；
你我依然俩心牵；
最终回到你身边!

有缘千里能相会， 没缘对面不相逢。

缘尽了就分开，何必苦苦纠缠？

There is somethings about "Orang Baik" & "Advices"

Before Married. I think:
Family is "Husband + Wife + Kids"

After Married, I think:
Family is " Husband + Wife + Kids + Orang Baik"

Who are "Orang Baik"??

Orang Baik are the people will give you "advices", "always beside you" and "closed to you".

you will noticed that family matters are not just between you and your husband / wife, it will involve "Orang Baik" even though just a little small matter.

Case 1: Cook Dinner
If you ask 'them' what should cook, their answer = "chin chai la", "cook what ever you cook, we don't have problem on it", "we ok for anythings".

But.. when you turn back to kitchen, the "representative" will come to kitchen and "advice" you what you should cook.

Case 2: Trips / Shopping
If you go for Trips or shopping without inform 'them', they will ask you "why you didn't ask me to go?" or "why you didn't invite me to join?".

But.. when they out for trips or shopping, they will not think about you, they will plan and go, you will not in their list, some more you will be the one to "Jaga Rumah".

Case 3: Buy outside foods
If you buy foods from outside, they will ask "xxx (my name), you buy xxx (food's name)?". Of course that my answer is "Yes". Then.. "they" will ask "why you didn't call me to eat"?

If you buy foods when 'they" are away, they will complain behind of you.. "why xxx don't buy the foods when I am around, why choose the date that I am not arond"..

Case 4: House Renovation
If you buy house, don't think of you able to "decide" what ever you like to renovation.

A lot of "advices" will come out, like: "You should..", "You better...", "Why don't you..", "How about.."

Case 5: Fighting
If possible, better don't fight infron of "Orang Baik".

They will present "Worry" and "Sad" in front of you..

At the back, they will said "Seperate is the better way to avoid fight"..

Don't think that "Orang Baik" will talk "straight" to you; they like to make "U-Turn" or "Round About" or "Highway".

If you ask them "straight" for somethings, they will said "I don't know about that..", "Not sure..", "Don't ask me, I don't know..", "Not my business..", "Dont' ask me..".

That is called "Don't take the shit to put on your body". But, they like to "Put shit on others people's body".. Funny!!

I herewith thanks for their "Advice", "Care" and "Concern"

It make me become "Strong" for "In" and "Out" side, and make me "Open my eyes and mind".

"Arigato Gozaimas"!!!

Give, Take, Request and End

Give = Causing somebody or somethings to have or receive

Take = Carry somebody or somethings or accompany somebody from one place to another

Request = Act of asking for somethings in speech or writing, especially politely

End = Final part of somethings; finish; conclusion

I check the above meanings from "Dictionary", because I really don't understand the above meanings SOMETIMEs....

When we GIVE somethings to people, people TAKE it, it not meant that the process is over; it will have REQUEST coming in and never END.

Before that, Give and Take is very simple for me, just like the explanations of the dictionary, and now I have learn the new meanings form 'The Family".

The new meanings is; after give and take, request is coming, after request, it not end yet; and another request is coming.....

Is it meant by better is don't GIVE, so there will not have REQUEST???

I believe that God already set up that how much will you have in your whole life.... So, if you want to request somethings, you must give somethings out first;

Just like the picture display, if you would like to have the can drink, you have to take out the money from the ATM machine, to insert it into the machine then you will get the drink.

For me, life is so simple, why want to make it so difficult till END??

"Life is Short, please Appreciate what people GIVE you and what you Have now"

父亲，爸爸，Daddy, Father....

明天又是一年一度的<父亲节>， 我的父亲 -- 林新利。。
从小，他给我的感觉不大容易亲近， 他很少打骂我，不过我也很少主动去接近他， 妈妈常常对我说： ”其实爸爸很疼你“。 我听后也没多大的感觉，只是听了就算。

爸爸从不把“疼‘这个字挂在嘴边或者表露出来，不过他绝对是一个好父亲。妈妈常常安排我们一家大小出游，他也从无怨言的载进载出，所以我的童年是快乐和充满回忆的。

在我的印象中，他是一个孝顺，有责任的人。他是长子，对下有六弟二妹；他只有小学程度，小学毕业后就开始工作了。他很少提起小时候的事，我都是从妈妈和姑姑那里听回来的。他曾在杂货点做过数，过后就帮公公做泥水，直到现在做装修 。(还没退休)

我长这么大(30岁)， 只见过他哭过四次。。
- 第一次和第二次 = 公公和婆婆去世
- 第三次 = 妈妈去世
- 第四次 = 我出嫁那天

我永远都不会忘记，妈妈去世的第二天早上，我看见爸爸在公公和婆婆的神主牌前站着，对”他们“说为什么要那么快带走妈妈。。。说完后眼泪就流下了。。。

现在我已是两个孩子的妈妈，当然明白为人父母的感受。我现在很enjoy看我爸和他的孙女们玩的样子，所以我常常回娘家，把孩子们”丢“给老爸看顾，而我就在一旁”观看“， 哈哈。。

我好想对爸爸说:”我爱你，爸!" (我会努力生个男孙给你玩)

Thank You, Indhu

Why i must THANKS her ???

I like to think and write since primary school,
HOWEVER, I have been stop it since after married, I so busy for company works (inclusive house works) and babies, really long long time did not write up any article about what I think.

On June 17, 2009, after have lunch with Indhu, on our way back to office, I share with her that my assistant Ashley got her own blog already, I hope I can have one also to write somethings.

She told me and support me to GO ON, don't simply give up!!

Dear Indhu, today I got MOOD, TIME and CHANCE to created my own blog, so you must be the first one to thanks.

Once again, THANK YOU,Indhu!!